Sonetimes when you want to say something that is not good to say, it is best to just stay away for awhile until it blows over. To remove temptation, so to speak. As Ann Landers would say, MYOB.
Bibi
This is a hard one but i think id keep it to myself! because for all you know you might lose a good friend for telling him the truth cause he will probably stay with her anyway! Think of how uncomfortable it will be at gatherings if you do tell him and he stays with her!
Unless this guy is your bestest friend in the whole wide world, I'd keep my mouth shut if I were you...
Leslie
I didn't want to be the first one to say it, but I agree also.-Shannon- wrote:I agree.-Tracy- wrote: Honestly I don't think it's any of your business. (sorry if that sounds harsh, I don't mean it to).
I wouldn't get involved in this. You're just going to cause hurt feelings/embarassment between many people by bringing it up.
---Jan---
That's how I see it too. And since your fiance is the best friend and chooses not to tell I think you shouldn't step on your fiance's toes by telling if he doesn't want to. I could see it causing issues between you and your fiance if he loses his friendship over this.-Tracy- wrote:He would be breaking a friendship that is really long.
I think that by you telling him, this would still be the result unfortunately.
Hope that made sense.
- Shannon
I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.
-Lucille Ball
I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.
-Lucille Ball
This sounds like one of those situations where the messenger gets shot!!
I have to agree with everyone telling you to leave it alone. I know it bugs the heck out of you, but relax, take a breath and try to understand it's their own business anyway it's handled, truefully or not.
Debbie
Stay out of it. It's a while ago and it won't win you any friendships.
Queen Mum - Grammy to Princess Bump (Lisa Giann) and Princess Bean (Gia Bella)
I wouldn't say anything either. It is between them. good luck with you decision.
Keep out of it. If you cause him trouble it could affect your relationship with your boyfriend.
I agree with this. Example: When I was younger a friend and I saw another friends husband with another women. The friend I was with when we saw this was bold enough to tell what she saw. Needless to say it was both embarrasing and hurtful to the friend that was told. It also caused a rift between friend and her husband. Finally he introduced his wife to the other women. She was a wedding planner and he was planning the wedding they never had and his wife had wanted. Surprise ruined, relationships strained and a good thing turned out to be a hurtful event for all involved. There are three sides to every story - yours, theirs and the truth.BeatrizS wrote: This is a hard one but i think id keep it to myself! because for all you know you might lose a good friend for telling him the truth cause he will probably stay with her anyway! Think of how uncomfortable it will be at gatherings if you do tell him and he stays with her!
You must choose your battles. It sounds like you really want to tell him, but ask yourself if you are willing to loose him as a friend if you do? It's a risk you might be faced with.
I wouldn't recommend you to say anything, after all is never a good idea to get in the middle of a couple... sorry about your friend.
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