I loved reading all the replies to this! I sort of figured that the people in the interview had to be in the minority.
OCD is not an adjective. It is not a personality quirk. It is not synonymous with being organized. It is a complex and debilitating mental health illness that affects people of all ages and walks of life, and is defined by the presence of unwanted, intrusive thoughts and repetitive actions. I am an OCD warrior and I fight for my son.
pahaha I'm trying to imagine G and I having the same political opinion. pahahhaa...pahahhahaa...PAHAHAHAHA wait...almost done....pahahhaa.....
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No where in my vows did it say, "and give up my right to my own opinions"...therefore, I speak for myself. And I respect my honey's opinions or his right to believe what he does no matter how wrong he may be...lol
WAS a TIKI BAR GIRL AND ALWAYS WILL BE
My husband and I have been married 43 years and no, I do not think you always have to share the same opinion as your spouse. Some things we do have the same opinion on, but others we don't. People are individuals and should be entitled to their own opinion.
No.... After all, each member of the couple is still an individual in his or her own right. He or she is entitled to their own views on things: from favorite restaurant to political views.
Laura....your avatar's are so funny!
I'm going to explain how I got to where I am in public with my husband on an opinion whether a political one or not. I had the good fortune to work in two jobs where I had access to other cultures. One couple I became good friends with many years ago was from the upper class in Peru. Because of a culture based on a very patriarchal society the woman will walk with her shoulder slightly behind her husband and always agree with him in public. But in a group of women only she will express her own views. With my graduate assistantship I worked with some Saudi Arabian men. This was a real eye opener for me. It was for my adviser, too. They would work with my fellow male graduate assistants but couldn't believe I opened my mouth at all in public, never mind have an opinion. After three or four years of marriage and in the company of my husband I can remember some looks I would get from two generations older outside of the family if I expressed an opinion different then my husband. I began to analyze the why I was seeing this happen. As I put things together I began to think of the nature of even our culture. As a result in social situations where men and women are together I don't agree or disagree with my husband. I find it makes for a much more enjoyable experience.
Marriage.....my husband and I agree politically on 99% of the issues.
I will say this to those of you 15-20 years younger then me. I come from the end of the Baby Boomers. My grandmother was in college at NYU during the time of The Woman's Suffrage was underway. I come from the end of the baby boomer generation which was the next period in history where NOW came about, women being told college was a good thing for them, women were being told they could have a family and a career, too. If you fall in that age group I mentioned you have so much more then we did even in the 60's through the early 80's. At the same time the fact that we are women at least this one and most of my friends have figured out is that our greatest power and strength lies within ourselves and our homes as mothers. It doesn't mean we can't have the rest of our cake and eat it too because we can. We will always be fighting to be heard, it is how we present ourselves when we state an opinion that makes the difference.
As for Mrs. McCain and her husband having opposing views on same sex marriage.....in my opinion is who the heck cares. He is fighting for his seat in the Senate. There is a good chance he will be upset. He's already considered a liberal in the Republican Party. By him saying he is for traditional only marriage and she saying she is ok with same sex marriage, they both are hoping to draw in voters for him. He's not my senator, I don't care if they have a difference of opinion, but I'm plenty capable of reading between the lines in a climate of "Just Get Rid of the Incumbents."
I'm going to explain how I got to where I am in public with my husband on an opinion whether a political one or not. I had the good fortune to work in two jobs where I had access to other cultures. One couple I became good friends with many years ago was from the upper class in Peru. Because of a culture based on a very patriarchal society the woman will walk with her shoulder slightly behind her husband and always agree with him in public. But in a group of women only she will express her own views. With my graduate assistantship I worked with some Saudi Arabian men. This was a real eye opener for me. It was for my adviser, too. They would work with my fellow male graduate assistants but couldn't believe I opened my mouth at all in public, never mind have an opinion. After three or four years of marriage and in the company of my husband I can remember some looks I would get from two generations older outside of the family if I expressed an opinion different then my husband. I began to analyze the why I was seeing this happen. As I put things together I began to think of the nature of even our culture. As a result in social situations where men and women are together I don't agree or disagree with my husband. I find it makes for a much more enjoyable experience.
Marriage.....my husband and I agree politically on 99% of the issues.
I will say this to those of you 15-20 years younger then me. I come from the end of the Baby Boomers. My grandmother was in college at NYU during the time of The Woman's Suffrage was underway. I come from the end of the baby boomer generation which was the next period in history where NOW came about, women being told college was a good thing for them, women were being told they could have a family and a career, too. If you fall in that age group I mentioned you have so much more then we did even in the 60's through the early 80's. At the same time the fact that we are women at least this one and most of my friends have figured out is that our greatest power and strength lies within ourselves and our homes as mothers. It doesn't mean we can't have the rest of our cake and eat it too because we can. We will always be fighting to be heard, it is how we present ourselves when we state an opinion that makes the difference.
As for Mrs. McCain and her husband having opposing views on same sex marriage.....in my opinion is who the heck cares. He is fighting for his seat in the Senate. There is a good chance he will be upset. He's already considered a liberal in the Republican Party. By him saying he is for traditional only marriage and she saying she is ok with same sex marriage, they both are hoping to draw in voters for him. He's not my senator, I don't care if they have a difference of opinion, but I'm plenty capable of reading between the lines in a climate of "Just Get Rid of the Incumbents."
being married for 15 years now, i've never thought that... well, except
where raising children counts (old school/morals/education/etc.), but
as far as opinions on religion, politics, or even just food = diversity
where raising children counts (old school/morals/education/etc.), but
as far as opinions on religion, politics, or even just food = diversity
"a heart in love with beauty never grows old" (turkish proverb)
I am not married...boyfriend and I have discussed marriage though...I am sure he would like me to agree with him more but he knows that isn't going to happen!
I was a goody goody in high school...well really still am...he was a wild child. This has been a topic of conversation many times, we feel this creates a balance...the same with having YOUR OWN opinions!!! I love him, but if I agreed with EVERYTHING he said we would be bored!! Sometimes you need to disagree so you can make up!
However, when it comes to raising children I feel you need to agree more...at least from what your kids can see...otherwise I feel you will be played against each other!! Stick together on that front!!
I was a goody goody in high school...well really still am...he was a wild child. This has been a topic of conversation many times, we feel this creates a balance...the same with having YOUR OWN opinions!!! I love him, but if I agreed with EVERYTHING he said we would be bored!! Sometimes you need to disagree so you can make up!
However, when it comes to raising children I feel you need to agree more...at least from what your kids can see...otherwise I feel you will be played against each other!! Stick together on that front!!
Um... If I was in office, and my husband did something like that, I'd call my lawyer. I'm only half-way joking.
Leslie
baltoscrapper wrote:Yes, only 1 opinion should be allowed per household.
MINE!
LOL
We think alike
I don't think it would even be realistic to think that 2 people could always agree on everything. How boring!!! I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but in the case of being in the public eye, perhaps a bit more discretion when going so against your spouses stance.
Susan
If that were true- marriage = one opinion, then i should not have married my husband. We disagree on a lot of things. But the things that matter, how we are raising our girls we compromise on, if we have different opinions. But calling ones spouse out in public is rude, regardless. A little more tact should have been giving.
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