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[Keling]

So, my oldest woke up with a bad tummy this morning... Not exactly unusual, as he does get them frequently, but this morning, something else was just making me wonder... Anyway, by the early afternoon, i found out he had had an "encounter" with this other child on FRIDAY. The kid basically swept-kicked my son's leg out from under him and he fell. Okay, it could normally be construed as school-boy rough play, fooling around, except that several weeks ago this same kid pushed my child to the ground and hit him.

Even though Tommy was home from school and in his PJs, I got him dressed and we drove straight to the school and headed straight for the headmistresses office.

DH dealt with the incidence the last time, but for some reason, the headmistress doesn't seem to 'remember' him making an appointment to see her, etc.... Anyway, according to her own stated policy, the second time around, the kid should at least be getting in-school dententions (they're both 7...), but, I'm a bit worried that this is really going to happen, since she can't 'remember' from about 6 weeks ago!

[scrappininAK]

it seems like that type of behaviour is on the rise. We got a note home from school about how the kids were whispering about each other and leaving people out, being mean - at least the staff are addressing it. Hope your headmistress takes it seriously

[Keling]

After we left the school - Tommy stayed home the rest of the day - she did call his mom and then pulled the kid out of class. He initially denied the whole thing, but then later recanted and said it was an 'accident'. She's going to meet with both him and our Tommy tomorrow morning to see if she can sort it out, but be sure I'll be checking in at her office as soon as my younger one goes to school in the afternoon!

[Retiree3]

I hope something is done about this behavior. I hate to see children get hurt by another student. I was a teacher for over 31 years and I had a strict policy about children hurting someone on purpose.

[Jenn Kellams]

it seems like that type of behaviour is on the rise. We got a note home from school about how the kids were whispering about each other and leaving people out, being mean - at least the staff are addressing it. Hope your headmistress takes it seriously

I don't really see whispering and having secrets as bullying. That just sounds like over-sensative kids. However bullying is critical and it does need to be addressed seriously. The problem though is that bullying will be a part of someone's life forever. It just becomes a different kind of bullying as they get older.

I think being physically mean and blatantly verbally abusive to someone though should absolutely NOT be tolerated.

So, my oldest woke up with a bad tummy this morning... Not exactly unusual, as he does get them frequently, but this morning, something else was just making me wonder... Anyway, by the early afternoon, i found out he had had an "encounter" with this other child on FRIDAY. The kid basically swept-kicked my son's leg out from under him and he fell. Okay, it could normally be construed as school-boy rough play, fooling around, except that several weeks ago this same kid pushed my child to the ground and hit him.

Even though Tommy was home from school and in his PJs, I got him dressed and we drove straight to the school and headed straight for the headmistresses office.

DH dealt with the incidence the last time, but for some reason, the headmistress doesn't seem to 'remember' him making an appointment to see her, etc.... Anyway, according to her own stated policy, the second time around, the kid should at least be getting in-school dententions (they're both 7...), but, I'm a bit worried that this is really going to happen, since she can't 'remember' from about 6 weeks ago!

I hope this gets resolved quickly. The sweep-kicking is not acceptable and the other child should be dealt with. If it had happened to me as a kid I would have gotten up and punched him back...lol (I know, not a good influence)

[LyndaKay]

good luck w/ this Sara

[Renee]

That's too bad! I really hope the fix the problem soon...it's not fair to your son to have to go to school and worry about being bullied. I'm sure it makes it harder for him to focus on his academics.

[terri04]

good luck. bully at that age must be stoped immediately. can't imagine what that kid would be like as he gets older! & the older kids are way out of control now

[stephfez]

Good luck and hugs to you and to Tommy.

[MaBuglet]

Bug is dealing with Bully issues at school. Essentially he has a restraining order against another kid in his class. They signed a contract (a Buffer Zone) that says that they will avoid each other at all times. Never more than 15 feet of one another and they can't whisper or talk trash about the other. If they are in violation then they lose a recess. Subsequent violations can result in a suspension. It has worked so far. I was up in the office about 3 times a week and haven't been up there in about 6 weeks.

[cynderellaj]

Oh man, I hate to see kids being bullied!! One of my nephews is in 1st grade and went to the bathroom the other day. There was a group of older kids in there and they made them sit on the urinal and then they flushed it over and over. So humiliating. Thankfully, my nephew Ethan, who is in 5th grade (they are cousins) happened to walk in and see it and went to get a teacher.


I had alot of those "tummyaches" as a kid myself and it isn't a fun way to go to school.....



I hope this situation gets addressed right away Sara and that isn't a problem anymore

[Nikki_E]

I'm so sorry!

[Monroe1218]

I hope that the head mistress is able to deal with this quickly and effectively! If she doesn't, is there anyone else that you can take this to? I hope that all of this is resolved soon, especially for Tommy!

[Keling]

The funny, okay, wrong word..., is that Tommy is one of the most popular kids in the school, but he is also one of the smallest. This other boy, who is same age and one of the other smallest in the school, is probably jealous of Tommy. The boy has some special needs - well, the extent I know is that he does wear a hearing aide. But Tommy is definitely different. One of the things that makes him so popular is simply his accent (non British). Even the teachers can't get enough of hearing him.

He got up and dressed fine this morning, and he's supposed to be meeting with the other boy and the headmistress sometime this morning. When I stop in this afternoon around lunch time, hopefully I'll find out what is going to happen.

[milmomma]

The funny, okay, wrong word..., is that Tommy is one of the most popular kids in the school, but he is also one of the smallest. This other boy, who is same age and one of the other smallest in the school, is probably jealous of Tommy. The boy has some special needs - well, the extent I know is that he does wear a hearing aide. But Tommy is definitely different. One of the things that makes him so popular is simply his accent (non British). Even the teachers can't get enough of hearing him.

He got up and dressed fine this morning, and he's supposed to be meeting with the other boy and the headmistress sometime this morning. When I stop in this afternoon around lunch time, hopefully I'll find out what is going to happen.

Hope things get worked out this morning and you stop in to find out good news!

[Keling]

Well, I spoke with the headmistress after I drop Jonny off at school. She said Tommy even reminded her at the end of assembly this morning about meeting with her and the other boy, and was very grown up about it.

The other boy, who did finally admit knocking Tommy, apologized. Tommy accepted his apology, but at the same time said he needed the other boy to prove that he was sorry and wasn't going to do anything to him again.

So, the boys have agreed to have a quick meeting with the headmistress at the end of every lunch play period for the next week to make sure everything is going okay. There is also the added incentive of team points, as well, which I know Tommy will be happy for.

I'm glad she's doing this, but at the same time, the daily meeting with the headmistress for my son does rub me a bit the wrong way, because I don't want him to think that he's in trouble. Hopefully, he'll see it as just checking in with him to make sure the other boy is behaving. Also, here's hoping that the kid doesn't think that once the daily meetings with the headmistress are over, he can go back to it all.

As I promised Tommy I'd be checking in today at lunch time, the headmistress also said she'd let Tommy know I did pop in, just so he'll feel a little more secure. Here's hoping this is the end of this!

[JeanG]

I hate bullying. As I kid, I was always bullied and hated school because of it. I avoided my older sis as much as humanly possible because she was a terrible bully; to this day I have little to do with her. (Yes, I complained to my parents. It was looked on as sibling rivalry and we were told to sort it out ourselves. I guess they just never really GOT how bad it really was.) I'm glad there's been a resolution for your son. I hope it continues to work out and the two manage to become friends - that would be great!

[AnnOminous]

Is Tommy a redhead? I ask because they were just talking on The View about how on this certain day recently (not sure exactly when) a good number of redhead kids were attacked. Apparently there was a facebook posting about how this day should be a "Kick a Ginger Day". Granted this was the US, but I have to wonder if Tommy is a redhead then maybe that kid heard about it.

[Keling]

Nope, he's a blondie

[kennabeans]

No advice for you just HUGS!!