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[Mommybruno]

My DH is 300lbs, covered in tattoos, is a nurse, and got a sewing machine for his birthday because he wants to sew his own scrubs. No-one ever accuses him of being girly!


Tell his Dad that he's getting useful skills for the future. When he gets around to looking for a lasting relationship someday, the girl is going to want a guy with skills. Not one that just takes out the garbage.



My brother cooks (really well!), sews (I can't), cleans the house, and still finds time for chopping wood, taking the State Trooper exam, and hunting.



It's the 2000s - genders need to diversify!

[AnnOminous]

Ah sheesh!! It's not going to make him gay!! Nor does it mean he is gay!!!


(There! I said it!!!)

[Kara]

I think that everyone of every sex should be interested in a hobby. Creativity is what makes us grow...

[terri04]

I agree. since when is more knowledge about anything wrong!!!

[Beth-W]

Hey, my 17 year old son just finished his senior project, which was learning to sew. He did a better job than his sister ever did ! It means that he knows how to iron his own clothes, sew buttons back on when they fall off, repair any of his clothes in the future...good life skills.

I agree with you and Jess...gender shouldn't come into the equation. Any skills or hobbies learned make for a well rounded person!

Couldn't have said it better myself.

You should love your kids for who they are not who we want them to be.

[Kimandasmo]

I am sorry-- gender should never play into the equation---these are life skills that anyone should be happy to have. I am sure his future wife would be thrilled if could mend a seam or sew a button back on....

[purplewhale]

Oh dear! I'm sorry to hear that his dad said that. As you probably already know I live in LA LA land where anything is acceptable, however I must admit that there are a fair number of men who come into my scrapbook store looking for "manly" papers and sticker sets (mostly about sports). I don't ask them a lot of questions, but inevitably we get a general idea about how to set up the greatest tickets for the best seats at the latest Dodger's game, etc. One time I had a man come in who wanted stickers relating to a "coupon book" he was going to give to his girlfriend (movie tickets, breakfast in bed, etc.).


I babble on.



BUT there's nothing wrong with your son getting into scrappin'. My 4-year-old Godson made my puppy a "get well soon" card. No one but me and his mom (my best friend) can read what he wrote but I see Cassie drawn and colored as plain as day...with a bandaged leg and all. Maybe that should be his first project...a card for Dad!



Warmest,

-L

[Grandma Flowers]

I don't see anything wrong with it, but my sons-in-law probably wouldn't like it.

[MLee]

I have 2 sons and 1 dd, ages 17, 21 and 26 now. They all scrapbook, are artists; they all cook and sew better than I do (I don't sew at all) and all three learned cake baking and decorating from their great aunt who owned a premiere cake shoppe in Germantown, TN.

I truly believe the more well rounded a child can be, the better off they will be as adults and so far my kids are amazing.

If we're going to have equality for women then we need the same for our boys. I'm really tired of our American society telling boys that everything other than hunting and sports is "gay." That is so very wrong. Just wrong.

[hellmgle]

By all means let him sew......

[immom2anc]

It might be that he likes creating and being artistic but it might also mean that he wants to spend time with gramma and he knows that she likes those things too! What a great thing to bond over. I know I don't really like baseball but my papa does and if he wants to watch a game, I'll sit right there with him and try to figure it all out, because it means we're hanging out.

[JulesinParadise]

My husband grew up learning to cook (thank God), sew, iron, clean and do cross stitch and he is one of the most 'manly' men I know. His mother raised him to be a good husband. While his dad thought men did certain things and women did others, he too mellowed in his older years and took over lots of the 'woman' chores.

PEOPLE (not female, male) need to be able to do lots of things regardless of how society labels these. It makes us all better able to take care of our selves and more appreciative of others. (stepping down off my soapbox now)!

[jcsmaestra]

Let him learn what he wants to learn, or play with whatever he wants. It will make no difference in the long run, except to give him a well-rounded experience in life. When my cousin was very young, he wanted to play with dolls. He grew up to get married and have 2 children. These experiences will be part of your son's overall development, but they won't determine the direction of whatever is inside him. Please let him do what makes him happy.

[Koiwey]

I think the WHOLE point here is this- it is not which sexes do what chores, etc. It is the fact that your son is worried that his son is enjoying doing an activity that he perceives is a gay behavior. I would ask your son these questions: "If he is gay, will you love him any less? Will you think less of him as a person?" That will give your son some things to think about because if your Grandson is gay- he was born that way and your son will have to accept it. There are too many people out there with terrible wounds because they are judged so harshly for who they are. It would be nice if they could be accepted in their own homes, by their own familes, if their parents would be in their corner to give them the support they need to make it in this life. Having said that many men sew- my husband learned to sew and iron in the Navy!!!! And he cooks and helps me clean the house. He is more than capable of running this house plus doing his job as a Director of Manufacturing where- you guessed it- men do quilting on machines. I hope you let your Grandson continue to create and enjoy himself. It is so important the quality time that he has with both you and your husband doing whatever hobbies, interests and skills you can share with him. BTW- my cousin's husband scrapbooks with her and my husband helps me out at home and at our LSS with color choices of supplies so I get a perfect match.


I am so glad your Grandson has you in his corner. He will always remember this time with you! It will make all the difference in the world to him.

[scrapaholic]

Let him do what he likes to do.

[my3boyz]

I think it is totally normal.... I have a house full of boys and they are AMAZED at art stuff and the mechanics of the sewing machine. I think it is so important to nurture the artistic side of things!

[imwickedwitch]

I hate gender stereotypes! Teach him both and he will be a better man for it!

[scrappininAK]

I taught both my kids (boy and girl) to sew and Lauren's whole class just learned to crochet.

[JeanG]

I'd be thrilled if one of the boys wanted to scrapbook! As has been said, it's a great creative outlet for everyone!

[jaziscrapper]

Not one thing wrong with this, he could be the next big designer.