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[bumblebby]

 Does anybody REALLY not like where they live? I am not talking about the house itself. I am talking about the city, village, town, etc.

 I grew up in Toronto and miss it SO MUCH. I now live at least two hours away in a really small town. It is just not working for me however it works for the kids and dh.

 I feel like I am going to grow old and rot here.

 I keep hoping that some kind of opportunity will present itself to get out of here.

 ***RANT OVER***

[lilkoala3]

 Uh...  I live right smack dab in the middle of the city of Philadelphia.  It smells bad, the people are rude, it's ugly, it's unsafe, and in general, it's DEPRESSING.  I hate it. 

[4peasinourpod]

 (((hugs)))

I felt that way growing up.

Right now, I know I am exactly where I want to be.  (Until that first snowstorm.... ) It would suck not feeling that.  Do you think that it will change when the kids start school? That is when I started feeling that I "belonged" here.

[milmomma]

 this is not my ideal place.

[MamaK321]

 my dh gets like that. I think military life and moving around suits him cause he gets stir-crazy in one place too long. LOL  We live in freaking Hawaii and he's saying he'll be glad to leave! I agree the school system and variety of shopping is lacking but I looove the constant fair weather.
sorry you feel trapped, hopefully a change of season soon will lift your spirits?

[SBcrazee]

I totally disliked where I grew up. I only go back there to visit family & close friends & even then it's not very often. I love where I live now. There's always other places that might be nicer but I can't complain.

I think you need to move closer to me. Is that a good enough reason for you to move?

[bumblebby]

Uh...  I live right smack dab in the middle of the city of Philadelphia.  It smells bad, the people are rude, it's ugly, it's unsafe, and in general, it's DEPRESSING.  I hate it. 

I have heard that the crime rate is high there but did not know the rest. You are only there for schooling purposes right? 

 Right now, I know I am exactly where I want to be.  (Until that first snowstorm.... ) It would suck not feeling that.  Do you think that it will change when the kids start school? That is when I started feeling that I "belonged" here.

Don't even get me started about snow!! My hometown gets next to no snow compared to where I live now. At any given point last winter there was 6ft of snow on my lawn!
 My ds started preschool last September when he was 2yrs 4mths old. He will start up again next month. I am on the preschool committee and I volunteer there. You would think having children would make it easier. I could suggest a playdate at my house? Well ds being Autistic makes him different and it is not so easy. Ds has made a ton of progress lately though so I am hoping he is not so different this year. In September 2009 ds will go to junior kindergarten so there is opportunity there as well. You hit the nail on the head, I really don't feel like I belong.

[bumblebby]

my dh gets like that. I think military life and moving around suits him cause he gets stir-crazy in one place too long. 

I love moving too! I love the weather here right now, hot but not too hot. 

I think you need to move closer to me. Is that a good enough reason for you to move?

 ***starts packing bags****

How will you explain the house guest with the strange accent to your dh?

[bluejeans7]

 Big (((((((((HUGS)))))))))) girlie!!  I totally understand what you are talking about because I feel the same way about where I live, hate it!!!

[MOM2SNOX]

 After having lived in several places during my military career, I'd have to say I TOTALLY love where I live now :) Sorry to hear you're hating it there.  Is there any possibility of moving anytime soon?

[SBcrazee]

my dh gets like that. I think military life and moving around suits him cause he gets stir-crazy in one place too long. 

I love moving too! I love the weather here right now, hot but not too hot. 

I think you need to move closer to me. Is that a good enough reason for you to move?

 ***starts packing bags****

How will you explain the house guest with the strange accent to your dh?

Trust me, he's used to my even stranger accent. I got you beat there.  Off to get the guest bedroom ready....

[butterfly843]

 I felt that way when we lived in vegas for 2 years, was so happy to move back home to long island.

[beachlover]

I hate where I live too.  The taxes are horrendous, its a small, snotty town.  Everything about this town and even my job is political, it is getting harder and harder to just do my job and keep my mouth shut.  Plus, as I get older, I hate winter and the cold more and mre.  We don't see snow as much as we see ice, and January is notorious for arctic temps.  A friend is moving to SC and my ds wants us to move there too.  Temp-wise is sounds perfect, an hour away from the beaches - same as what I have now.  But, right now I have 15 years vested into the state pension.  I think that is the only think that is really holding e back.  And my entire family is within minutes of me.  I truly don't know what to do!  I feel like I need some chane in my life and this ay be what I need, but I also worry about leaving everything behind...

[bumblebby]

 Is there any possibility of moving anytime soon? 

Dh is a manager at a road construction company and the job he is on finishes in the next few weeks. They still have not told him where he is going. Probably in the area. I wish it were far away so we could move.

 I truly don't know what to do!  I feel like I need some chane in my life and this ay be what I need, but I also worry about leaving everything behind...

Ya, I am at a cross roads too. Dh grew up here and the kids have their grand parents down the street which is their only family besides us. I don't know how much longer I can do this.

[Jenn Kellams]

 Boy do I know how you feel right now!  I live in Fort Myers, FL.  Its about 30 mins from Naples if that helps anyone.  There is nothing here but old rich money!  I have been here two years and I have one friend.  I go to college but I am 29 so its not exactly like I am going to school with people my age so that sucks.  Also, my family is minimum of 6 hours away with most of them being 17 hours away!  My husband grew up here and loves it here.  I try to accept being here but darn it it is so tough.

I am glad to know I am not the only one that feels this way about where i live.  I sometimes wonder if this is what I am doomed too the rest of my life!!!  Gosh I hope not!!

[Janshotgun]

 I used to live in a suburb of Detroit - for 30 years! - lots of shopping and restaurants and a very safe city, but my house was getting old and the neighborhood was changing to foreigners and there weren't any nice friendly neighbors left.

Now I live in a beautiful house that my husband helped design with 3 acres of woods behind me and a great Lake acaross the street and a lot of wildlife and it is like paradise on earth in the summer with all the festivals and farmer markets and tourists.  But winter is hell!  Everybody leaves town for warmer climates and there aren't alot of stores to shop at - Walmart is 25 minutes away - Yippee!.  Talk about getting stir crazy (think The Shining!)  I hate being so isolated - and it's hard to make friends when you are older and don't have kids to help you network.

[TheFiberLady]

 well i do miss my hometown, but probably only because my parents still live there.  I love the beauty of where I live and being closer to the cities so I could go shopping if i felt like it.  but i do miss the awesome food of my hometown.  I like where i live but when we retire we plan on moving back to my hometown so i'm good lol

[bumblebby]

I am glad to know I am not the only one that feels this way about where i live.  I sometimes wonder if this is what I am doomed too the rest of my life!!!  Gosh I hope not!! 

 It does make me feel better that I am not the only one too. Sometimes I feel selfish for feeling this way because I know how content dh and of course the kids are.

Jan, I know what you mean about winter being hell. It gets so bad here we can not go outside...for months on end some years.

[beachlover]

 Jan, it sounds lie you live near my grandmother!  She is way up in orthern MI

[Janshotgun]

 I'm at the tip of the thumb - so not really up north......