Thank you, that's very nice to hear. When I first told some friends and family what I was planning to do, most were quite negative about it, but I felt very sure about it so I did it anyways. And I'm so glad I did! It ended up being an extremely painful thing (physically) for me since I hyper-stimulated with so many eggs. I ended up having to have surgery every day for five days after the eggs were extracted, they were trying to save my ovaries (and luckily they did). It 's pretty rare to hyper-stimulate so badly, but whatever, I'm still glad I did it. A few weeks of pain are soon forgotten in the long run.
lol....I think the same way moody does.....we get rid of it once a month anyways ......I would have LOVED to have done that!!
Leanna, that's so amazing! I'm so glad you ended up okay. What a nice thing for you to do.
I think I could - but maybe not to someone I know. Esp. if my parenting styles interferred. Jenna
Leanna, I think what you did for that couple is wonderful!! Dh and I have had problems conceiving, and I hate to hear when people say... "You could always adopt"... well, yeah, but it's not the same when there are so many other options out there! At one point, I even asked my sister if she would be a surrogate for us, with my eggs and his sperm, only because the doctors told me that my body probably wouldn't handle it (to the point at which I would probably not make it through the delivery; and I honestly thought those days of women dying during delivery were over!); To me, adoption is not the same because you don't have that little one that has your or your husbands' features, and that wouldn't be your bloodline.I am not against adoption, because I've got some great friends that were adopted, and they say that they are really appreciative for the parents that adopted them; they know they have a better life...But I applaud you Leanna, honestly, it brought tears to my eyes, reading your story, and thinking what a wonderful gift you gave that family; and like you said, you got to meet them and you felt comfortable. I just hate that there was pain and surgeries involved, but I'm glad your ovaries and tubes were saved! My sister did agree, but I chose not to; we'll try in-vitro and I'm willing to take any risks... they said the risks would be taxing on my body, not the baby... Of course we are praying and praying that God will bless us naturally,And if I were asked, I'd do it; I've even considered it because my eggs are good, it's just that one tube is block or weak (I forgot what they told me; after a while, you go deaf when they start talking about you're going to have problems conceiving naturally...). I'm with Moody on this one... you shed so many during a months time, why not give the gift of life to somone else, that "WANTS" a child--think about it, people that want children bad enough to spend the $8-$15 thousand for the process--they aren't going to mistreat or abuse that child... Eggs get flushed down the toilet each month; because they were unfertilized... an egg is so tiny, I don't understand why you would miss it. I would think that the only problem with receiving an egg from an anonimous egg donor is that you don't know famiy history of illnesses...Well, that's my take on the situation coming from the other side of it; like the couple that received Leanna's eggs. I am normally not this personal with things, but I felt compelled to give my opinion, and even considered twice erasing everything I had typed and not replying at all... But, Furbaby_Mom, I would do it if it were a sister or a close friend... once that egg is fertilized in her body, that's not my child; my egg left me unfertilized by choice... that's how I look at it. I would think it would be even better if it were a sister or a brother that was asking, because then the child still has a chance at looking like family! Heck!! When my niece was born, everyone kept saying how much she looked like me!! She looks nothing like my sister to be honest with ya, she looks more like the father, and me!! Not only that, she acts like me when I was her age!! Now that is just plain weird!! Even now, my niece just turned 7, and if I'm out with my sister and my niece, people start talking to me telling me what a cute little girl she is, and how polite she is... I say thank you, but that's the mom (pointing to my sister); then they look at her, and say "wow, I never would have guessed that!".... so... I just thought I'd share that with you and answer your question... If this is a decision you're trying to make, I'll keep you in my prayers that you will make the decision that is right for YOU.
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Whoa, this is something that makes you go...hmmmmm...First of Leanna, your story is beautiful, and I think what you did was wonderful for that couple.As for my eggs, I think I would only give them up for my sister. I struggled for years to get pregnant and she is now facing the same battle. If there is anything I could do for her, I would. Not sure if I would see the child "mine"..I guess a part of me would think that, but if I can give her the gift of a baby, I would. I don't think I could do that for strangers though... JMO
You know...this happened to me.....I struggled with infertility for years....I finally decided to go with invitro and because I was so young (25 at the time), I decided to help any other couple to conceive my using my eggs. I wanted to first get pregnant and then whatever was left over...I asked to have them donated. I also thought that anyone who was willing to put themselves thru he** in order to have a child just had to be decent parents. It is definitely a trying time. Only the serious make it thru a cycle. However, what happened to me was..get this...the doctor comes in and tells me I need to keep the eggs I have for myself...I was going thru premenopausal! At the age of 25!!!!!So...yet another obstacle to jump in order for us to get pregnant. But we did! Thank God!I really think that one's mind changes when you are in a predicament of being infertile. Your heart breaks so much for a child and for others that want a child so desperately. I can actually understand to a degree with women who kidnap babies just to have a child. The desire is so so strong , it could make one do crazy things. So, to answer your question...yes..most definitely..I would donate anything I could for a couple who dreamed for a child.
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