How did your parents discipline you when you were a kid?

[bumblebby]

 Times have changed eh?

 My friend and I were talking about how we were disciplined when we were kids. So, what method did your parents use?

[Jenn Kellams]

 It depended on what I did wrong!  lol  For something dangerous I probably got a spanking and then got grounded.  Something small, I probably lost privilages and got a stern talking to.  However, I also knew what "NO" meant and if I didn't obey I knew my concequences. 

[cynderellaj]

 We usually got spankings with a wooden spoon or grounded.  My mom says that I was a pretty good kid, but she gave me a spanking about every 6 weeks just to be sure I stayed in line   I personally believe that we have gone too far in the no hitting theory.  I think my nephews would gain alot from a spanking now and then.  It worked on us as kids

[Jenn Kellams]

 We usually got spankings with a wooden spoon or grounded.  My mom says that I was a pretty good kid, but she gave me a spanking about every 6 weeks just to be sure I stayed in line   I personally believe that we have gone too far in the no hitting theory.  I think my nephews would gain alot from a spanking now and then.  It worked on us as kids

I think more kids everywhere need more spanking and more discipline.  Working in the public school system tells me that everytime I substitute. 

[scrapsakes]

 well, my grandma raised me so let's just say that
 i was spoiled rotten, but to my defense, i was a
 pretty good kid and never got into any trouble.

 well, not any BIG troubles anyway    and she was a
 totally awesome grandma, i got away with murders!

[Art_Teacher]

 I still believe there is a huge difference between spanking and beating your kids and my parents knew how to deliver an effective swat on the behind to get my attention.  They also talked to me about behavior and took away privileges.  The most important of all, though, they followed through with the discipline...no getting out of it...ever.  I learned to listen when they told me something and that I couldn't get around them or get away with things.

[Flapdoodle]

 I still believe there is a huge difference between spanking and beating your kids and my parents knew how to deliver an effective swat on the behind to get my attention.  They also talked to me about behavior and took away privileges.  The most important of all, though, they followed through with the discipline...no getting out of it...ever.  I learned to listen when they told me something and that I couldn't get around them or get away with things.

AMEN!!!

[ScrapGoo]

 Most of you will find it hard to believe that I was a completely angelic child.  I was *scarily* good and can really only remember once having to stand in the corner when I was 6 or so and then once getting in trouble as a pre-teen.  They threatened taking my privileges a couple of times when I was a teen but it never happened. 

I knew my mom was the LAW and had a lot of freedom because I didn't break the rules. 

[bumblebby]

 I was spanked, usually with the hand but sometimes with objects. If I misbehaved in public....well lets just say I rarely did that!  I knew better.

 As far as I know, all my friends were spanked too.
 

[gonecamping]

 I was spanked with a belt, or a stick. We were scared to death of my dad. We didn't back talk or it was a slap across the mouth. I made the decision that I would NEVER use a belt or spoon or anything on my kids. I have swatted them when they were younger, but only with my hand. On the other hand I am way more strict with my kids when it comes to losing priveleges. They get grounded and lose alot of priveleges when they mess up. I never was grounded but one time that I can remember..it was just a beating with the belt when we screwed up.

[Nikki_E]

 We got spanked with a paddle then sent to our rooms.  I was born in 1972 and back then we didn't have a TV, phones or video games in our rooms.

[cat1393]

 Famous last words....'just wait till your father gets home'! THAT was punishment enough! Until my brother and I realized that nothing happens. It's the sweating it out that was the punishment.

[dianagirly]

 My dad use to beat the crap out of us. Well not me so much, but all of my brothers. He was also into verbal abuse. He has since grown up, thank goodness.
I was a very good child but if I ever fought back with my brothers, I got punishment for not being a peace-maker. I never learned my lesson on that one. LOL

[LoveMyBella]

 Much like Jess, I wasn't really disciplined.  I was a good kid who trembled at the words..."When your father gets home..."  My mom had 5 kids.  By the time I was old enough to discipline (I'm #4), she was done trying to raise the perfect child and just hoping for a "good" kid.     My younger sister and I had a lot of freedom, and in turn, we behaved. 

I can only remember really getting in trouble twice.  Once when she was on the phone and my sister and I were using the cord as a jump rope....remember those super long phone cords?  LOL! She swatted us with an old style hairbrush and left us matching bruises...we STILL laugh about it.  (we were 12 and 15 and totally deserved it) And once when I was failing Algebra. Bad grades weren't tolerated.   It's one of the few times I remember my dad yelling.  It was brutal.  I never failed another test. 

[koala1966]

We were not abused children, but we were disciplined, and we are better for it.  At the very least, we were sent to our room, lost privileges, lost allowance.  That's for not listening or not doing what we were told.  If we were bad - misbehave in public, sass our parents, anything close to a cuss word, we got spanked.  If we really made our dad mad, it was the belt.  If our parents threatened us with a specific form of discipline, we knew they meant it.  If mom said "You're going to get a spanking," we got one.  Never did they say something and not back it up with actions.  My youngest sister got the least amount of spankings, because my other sister and I felt bad for her and would take her punishment for her.  Surprise, surprise - my parents had the most trouble with her out of the three of us, the one to feel the least consequences for her actions.

I have no problems with parents spanking their children.  I'm glad my parents disciplined us the way they did, I've never held that against them.  I agree with Laura (Art_Teacher), there's a difference between spanking and beating.  But even if parents don't want to spank - just following through on disciplinary actions would mean the world of difference in the actions of these kids I see today.  I tease my mom sometimes - the only time I ever got in serious trouble in school was the last day of 5th grade; I managed to get myself suspended for fighting.  At the time my parents had no idea that I ever would get in a fight; they were devestated.  I was a good kid but I didn't back down from anyone.  I was big time in trouble - it sucked because I was grounded most of the summer, I had to give all my fair tickets that I bought with my own allowance to my sisters, and I had to give all my good stickers to the other girl.  I teased Mom a few times as an adult about how harsh my punishment was that summer, but she took me seriously and actually apologized to me, I told her "No, don't you dare apologize, you were completely right for what you did, I'm just messing with you."  I can tell you I was never suspended again.

[justred2u]

I have to tell you ... "Wait till your father gets home ... " was enough to scare the *&^% out of me to the point that I just started back tracking and helping Mom do something ... dishes, folding clothes, something.  There were 7 girls and I am #4.  (ok ok that was before birth control and I guess my parents just couldn't figure out why she kept turning up preggers.)  I have 1 sister that is a year older than me and 1 sister a year younger than me.  They always blamed me.  And then my oldest sister was too ignorant to catch on and the youngest was just spoiled rotten.  But that punishment of "go to your room", what a JOKE!!!! That usually was enough for one of my kids to actually do something wrong.

[4peasinourpod]

 My brother was the favored child...i spent most of my childhood trying to appease myself in their eyes.  No discipline necessary.

My mom left when I was in high school, and my brother and I pretty much raised ourselves after that.  He and she are still close.  Me and her...not so much.  She is good to my kids.  (One in particular.  See a pattern here ?)

[TraciL]

 I got spanked with my Dad's belt or my mother's hairbrush -

And I am JUST FINE! - I'm not messed up from that ........I'm messed up, but not from that........

[TexasMom]

 This reminds me of a conversation I had with my mom the other day.  It was pretty funny.........

I had gotten frustrated with dd and I told her to get her head out of her butt.  Well, my mother acted shocked and told me that she NEVER spoke to me like that.  I looked at her and said, "No, mom, you did not.  You went out to the tree and got a branch and beat me with it.  Hhhhmm, which should I do?"  My mother was surprised I said that and then kind of laughed and said, "Okay, nevermind."

[Janell]

 I was just talking about this the other day with friends and all 3 of us were spanked with wooden spoons!  I can never look at my wooden spoons without thinking about the time my mom broke one on my behind!  I also agree with what Laura said about spanking.  My boys just laugh at me when I spank them DH says I am not doing it hard enough, but it hurts my own hand and then they laugh and I give up.  But grounding or taking away privilages seems to work wonders with them.