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*UPDATE* Laura and the Very Bad Day
I need to whine . . . just a little.

I'm having one of those days where things are just piling up one after the other and my frustration level is through the roof!  I figure if I get it all out to you Cherries, I'll feel better.

First, for those that didn't know, I went back to college last summer.  I've been doing really well . . . all A's.  Until this semester.  I just got my latest test scores back for the two classes I'm taking and I got a C- on each of them.  One of those C- grades was actually only one more wrong answer away from a D.  I was flabbergasted by this because I've gotten A's on all my homework assignments, project, and quizzes.  So, I figure I'm not as focused since I'm working full time. 

So, I talked to my boss and told him that I had to stop the full time schedule and I needed to be put back down to 20 hours or less. At first, all was good.  He said it was no problem whatsoever, he'll work around whatever I need, blah, blah, blah.  Fast forward to this evening when he calls to tell me that he talked it over with the other partners and, while they will accommodate my need for part time hours, there will be some changes.  First, my pay will drop.  Now, I'm not working for the money exactly.  It's definitely great to have, but I mostly went back for the experience.  But, I have to admit that this is really starting to anger me.  After sharing that information with me, he then tells me that since I won't be available as much as I have been the last several months, I'm being moved off of my current case.  (I'm a Paralegal, for those that don't know.)  This hurts.  Pretty bad.  I've been working my backside off on this case from the research, to the depositions, to the interviews.  That file is my "baby".  That's all of my work and it's more than 75% complete.  And now, I'm just out.  Someone else is going to step in and finish it up, but probably get credit for the whole freakin' thing.  I'm pretty angry about that.  I'm trying to stay calm and breathe through it all.

On top of all that, my body has decided that I've spent enough time in the premenopausal end of the pool and it's time to be thrown into the full menopausal end of the pool.  Holy Hannah . . . my hair is coming out at a pace I'm not used to, the hot flashes are sometimes relentless, the insomnia is worse than ever, and the mood swings are absolutely terrible.  Yesterday, I took a load of laundry out of the dryer and I actually burst into tears because I remembered I forgot the fabric softener.  This whole experience is just weird to me.  I know that I'm going to be 50 this year and this is to be expected, but I feel 25 years old . . . 10 - 12 years old on good days.  Image  So, I'm not tolerating this very well.

I'm doing my very best to stay upbeat and know that this too shall pass, but some days that's a hard thing to do.

Thanks for letting me vent.  <3 you Cherries.

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EDITED TO CLARIFY -- When I said they dropped my pay I mean my hourly rate of pay.  I don't expect to get paid for 40 hours of work if I only do 15, but to cut my hourly rate seems very unfair to me.  But, rules are rules, I guess. 
 
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Re: Laura and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day
That is so much to take on at once. I hope you will be able to take a little time for yourself this weekend to relax, pamper yourself, and get some extra sleep. Hugs to you!
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not a good day.  Hugs!  Hope your weekend gets you back in a good mood.
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I am sorry that you are going through this rough patch. It will get better, I know that is cliche, but it always works out. The grades WILL return, you have proved you are smart, the boss is a jerk, that was low and underhanded, and the menopause, take it one day at a time. Yes, take time for you this weekend, do something that makes you laugh, not just smile. Laughing is so good for you! And know that we are all here if you need to vent anymore. HUGS!!!!
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oh Laura, I'm so sorry this is all happening to you at once! Image Your boss is definitely a jerk! That is such a rotten thing! About the menopause, I totally understand that. I was suddenly thrown into that at 45 when I had to have a total hysterectomy for endometrial cancer. Insomnia, hot flashes, night sweats, headaches, irritability, etc. I know how you're feeling. You definitely need to put yourself as priority these days and pamper yourself!  You can research as there are things you can take to help out. Hugs!! 
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Well that really sucks! I’d be upset too after putting your all into that case. I have a suggestion about your hair tho cuz it’s been happening to me too. I switched to L’Oréal Elvive shampoo and it seems to be making a difference for me. Maybe it’d help you too. I’m not regrowing what I lost but it seems to keep what I have from falling out. Hope today’s a better day for you. 
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Good grief! I’ve never heard of dropping pay rate because you need less hours- that super sucks! And to take away a case that you e been working on when it’s that close to completion just totally makes no sense to being in someone else for that case at this point. Grrrr! 
I have no words to make it better- I’m here for you to vent to of course. I wish I had some good solid suggestions.lots of hugs. 
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DN in MN

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Re: Laura and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day
Holy smokes, Laura... your title is right on point!  First of all, congratulations on going back to school :)  that is a feat by itself and  you will get that grade figured out.  Second, shame on your boss for dropping not just one bomb but multiple ones over the phone instead of a meeting format!  Hopefully, you can arrange a meeting to heard and get something worked out.  Third, adding your emotions and physical trials and tribulations.. I can't even imagine!  Hang in there and I hope by venting it helped you out.  

 
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It can only get better from here. Image
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Re: Laura and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day
wimom wrote:That is so much to take on at once. I hope you will be able to take a little time for yourself this weekend to relax, pamper yourself, and get some extra sleep. Hugs to you!
Thank you!  I plan to do just that! 
OCD is not an adjective.  It is not a personality quirk. It is not synonymous with being organized.  It is a complex and debilitating mental health illness that affects people of all ages and walks of life, and is defined by the presence of unwanted, intrusive thoughts and repetitive actions. 💙 I am an OCD warrior and I fight for my son. 💙

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karensay wrote:not a good day.  Hugs!  Hope your weekend gets you back in a good mood.
Thanks!  I hope so, too! 
OCD is not an adjective.  It is not a personality quirk. It is not synonymous with being organized.  It is a complex and debilitating mental health illness that affects people of all ages and walks of life, and is defined by the presence of unwanted, intrusive thoughts and repetitive actions. 💙 I am an OCD warrior and I fight for my son. 💙

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Re: Laura and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day
oceanbreezes423 wrote:I am sorry that you are going through this rough patch. It will get better, I know that is cliche, but it always works out. The grades WILL return, you have proved you are smart, the boss is a jerk, that was low and underhanded, and the menopause, take it one day at a time. Yes, take time for you this weekend, do something that makes you laugh, not just smile. Laughing is so good for you! And know that we are all here if you need to vent anymore. HUGS!!!!
Thanks for letting me vent!  I know what you mean about laughing!  It seems like it's been so long since I've had a really good, hard, tears in your eyes belly laugh.  I have tickets to see Ron White on the 23rd.  (He was once part of the Blue Collar Comedy Tour with Jeff Foxworthy.)  I hope I don't make it all the way until then without laughing, but at least I know it's coming! 
OCD is not an adjective.  It is not a personality quirk. It is not synonymous with being organized.  It is a complex and debilitating mental health illness that affects people of all ages and walks of life, and is defined by the presence of unwanted, intrusive thoughts and repetitive actions. 💙 I am an OCD warrior and I fight for my son. 💙

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Deanna13 wrote:oh Laura, I'm so sorry this is all happening to you at once! Image Your boss is definitely a jerk! That is such a rotten thing! About the menopause, I totally understand that. I was suddenly thrown into that at 45 when I had to have a total hysterectomy for endometrial cancer. Insomnia, hot flashes, night sweats, headaches, irritability, etc. I know how you're feeling. You definitely need to put yourself as priority these days and pamper yourself!  You can research as there are things you can take to help out. Hugs!! 
Thank you, Deanna!  I've already started reading.  Image 
OCD is not an adjective.  It is not a personality quirk. It is not synonymous with being organized.  It is a complex and debilitating mental health illness that affects people of all ages and walks of life, and is defined by the presence of unwanted, intrusive thoughts and repetitive actions. 💙 I am an OCD warrior and I fight for my son. 💙

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-Tracy- wrote:Well that really sucks! I’d be upset too after putting your all into that case. I have a suggestion about your hair tho cuz it’s been happening to me too. I switched to L’Oréal Elvive shampoo and it seems to be making a difference for me. Maybe it’d help you too. I’m not regrowing what I lost but it seems to keep what I have from falling out. Hope today’s a better day for you. 
 
Thank, Tracy!  I will definitely give that shampoo a try.  At this point I don't care if I regrow -- I just don't want to lose anymore!  Image 
OCD is not an adjective.  It is not a personality quirk. It is not synonymous with being organized.  It is a complex and debilitating mental health illness that affects people of all ages and walks of life, and is defined by the presence of unwanted, intrusive thoughts and repetitive actions. 💙 I am an OCD warrior and I fight for my son. 💙

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suewho372 wrote:Good grief! I’ve never heard of dropping pay rate because you need less hours- that super sucks! And to take away a case that you e been working on when it’s that close to completion just totally makes no sense to being in someone else for that case at this point. Grrrr! 
I have no words to make it better- I’m here for you to vent to of course. I wish I had some good solid suggestions.lots of hugs. 
Thanks.  Just knowing that you and the other Cherries are willing to hear me out is enough for me! 
OCD is not an adjective.  It is not a personality quirk. It is not synonymous with being organized.  It is a complex and debilitating mental health illness that affects people of all ages and walks of life, and is defined by the presence of unwanted, intrusive thoughts and repetitive actions. 💙 I am an OCD warrior and I fight for my son. 💙

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DN in MN wrote:Holy smokes, Laura... your title is right on point!  First of all, congratulations on going back to school :)  that is a feat by itself and  you will get that grade figured out.  Second, shame on your boss for dropping not just one bomb but multiple ones over the phone instead of a meeting format!  Hopefully, you can arrange a meeting to heard and get something worked out.  Third, adding your emotions and physical trials and tribulations.. I can't even imagine!  Hang in there and I hope by venting it helped you out.  


 
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lissahope26 wrote:It can only get better from here. Image
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Laura,  I am so sorry. It is wrong what they are doing.  Hope you can find a balance in what you need and can do. Hugs my friend.
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That is terrible- about your job I mean.  If you were salary I see cutting your pay but not your hourly pay just because you need to work less hours.  I hate to say it but I have a feeling they did that to see if it would make you quit.  Just hang in there.  It's not like you were stepping down on your duties, etc.

Don't have any words of wisdom on the menopause (haven't had that joy yet), but I already understand about the mood swings.  A lot of mine has to do with pain that goes along with the period time.  Things get too much go for a walk, read, step outside and breathe in fresh air (even though I know it is cold where you are), whatever you enjoy.
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Laura wrote:
suewho372 wrote:Good grief! I’ve never heard of dropping pay rate because you need less hours- that super sucks! And to take away a case that you e been working on when it’s that close to completion just totally makes no sense to being in someone else for that case at this point. Grrrr! 
I have no words to make it better- I’m here for you to vent to of course. I wish I had some good solid suggestions.lots of hugs. 
Thanks.  Just knowing that you and the other Cherries are willing to hear me out is enough for me! 
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