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how many cherries are off to a good 2012 with their lives? I mean, do you feel that you are where you want to be with your life, whether you work, or not, in a relationship, if that's what you've always wanted, take time to exercise, or just stay in shape that works for you.... Just you ladies, just you!:)


I'll start. NO. In the past few years since we've moved here, things have just went downhill. I don't seem to have much motivation for anything. I even quit exercising, which I love, and have put on some pounds so that makes me crabby. I've have some deaths which I haven't dealt with very well, I know that it's part of life, but I wasn't ready. I know that sounds strange, but I had always pictured those events when I was older, and not at this point in my life. I do work, and like my job, the people there make it fun. I love this mb, as everyone here is so nice, and REAL. It's not all about who did what, and who bought what and who went where. I'm kindof stuck in this group of 'friends' where some of them are all about one upping each other. It makes it really hard to even want to be around them, and so I don't. Maybe it's the gloomy weather today, but I just don't feel very happy. Maybe that's just life? Sorry, didn't want to make this all doom and gloom, just not feeling that February Valentine spirit yet and could use a little cherry cheer.

Afew days ago I posted that I have been close to becoming as close to depressed as I ever have. I know just how your feeling in the grand scheme of things lately. It felt really good just to type it all out in black and white, even without a response from anyone. I still felt a slight lift. My situation has not improved in a few years. We added up what we have paid in Rent for six years and have "literally" paid the morgage for the owner!! She is not the best landlord and has not refurbished or improved anything in the six years living here. It feels like we may never be home owners. I do feel blessed that our two boys are happy. healthy,
clothed and fed. They bring me blessing I will never be able to count. I know that if I keep God's faith someday things will look up for my family and I. Sometimes its just difficult, but not impossible.

My wish for you is that 2012 will be a better year that you have ever had!

I am in the same sort of boat. 2012 for me was going to be different and fun (in my mind anyway), but so far it really hasn't been that way. I did get a new puppy which has been the highlight of my day. He does keep me smiling. Other then that, the past 5 years have been hard and challenging. I have gained a huge amount of weight and need to get it off. Even the dr says for my heart I have to drop it. He is only giving me til late spring early summer to start this. If I don't he is suggesting that we talk about surgery. Boy does that scare me, but it hasn't scared me enough to change my eating habits and start to exercise again. I just don't have the motivation or will power. So that is my biggest hurdle right now, and the other hurdle is to figure out how to get out of the financial bind we are in. Instead of getting better with each passing month, it is getting worse. DH can't work, and we do get his SSI, and I work full time, but it just isn't enough. I really wish I could find a work at home part time job to bring in extra money. I just can't seem to find a legitamite one. So to answer the original question, NO I am not were I wanted to be when 2012 started.


Chris - let's keep our heads held high and do our best to get to where we would like to be.

Thanks Janet. Sorry to hear about things there, renting always seems to be a pain, it's a vicious circle. Hopefully things will turn around for you too!


Yep, I'm happy and blessed with a healthy family. Outside of my own personal little issues, my family, home, job, etc are all fine. I've had some medical scares over the past couple of years and now have these issues haunting me all the time. I've become one of those people who has a standing meeting with their physicians almost monthly, and I hate it. Not sure how to deal with it I guess, and feel like I'm a burden to others when I do talk about it or complain. With all the negativity on a 'friends' level - I haven't really told them about my medical things, I don't want them having another topic to talk smack about.

mgehrke wrote:I am in the same sort of boat. 2012 for me was going to be different and fun (in my mind anyway), but so far it really hasn't been that way. I did get a new puppy which has been the highlight of my day. He does keep me smiling. Other then that, the past 5 years have been hard and challenging. I have gained a huge amount of weight and need to get it off. Even the dr says for my heart I have to drop it. He is only giving me til late spring early summer to start this. If I don't he is suggesting that we talk about surgery. Boy does that scare me, but it hasn't scared me enough to change my eating habits and start to exercise again. I just don't have the motivation or will power. So that is my biggest hurdle right now, and the other hurdle is to figure out how to get out of the financial bind we are in. Instead of getting better with each passing month, it is getting worse. DH can't work, and we do get his SSI, and I work full time, but it just isn't enough. I really wish I could find a work at home part time job to bring in extra money. I just can't seem to find a legitamite one. So to answer the original question, NO I am not were I wanted to be when 2012 started.


Chris - let's keep our heads held high and do our best to get to where we would like to be.

Thanks Mildred, I sure hope things can turn around for you also. I know the job market is tight and we only have so much time in our days, especially with a family.


I've been trying to figure out how to get motivated and drop those pounds too. I know it would help make me feel better about one thing anyway. I seem to always be busy, and my sil says to just do what I want, when I want. Like going for a walk to exercise, but I do things for everyone else first. Back to the rut.



I will keep you in my prayers also, we can't let this continue!

I'd have to say I'm very happy.

I have a good life with a man that is a perfect match for me. And he spoils me so much (he feels that he gets spoiled more - so it must be good)

We are retired in a good place.

We aren't as set financially as we had planned when we retired - but the market took that dive and we didn't get what we planned for our house back east - but even when things feel really tight, we realize we're in a better spot than many people are. We just can't do the trips we had planned to do.

Yeah, our bodies are falling apart - but nothing too serious. Aches and pains remind us that we're alive.

I too have to say I'm very happy. I did experience a general sense of irritability and un-settledness, if that's a word, about 4 years ago. I started tanning for a cruise I was planning and it made all the difference the world. My mood lifted, and while theproblems were still there, I dealt with them much better.


But this year is starting out wonderful. I've met someone terrific, and am about to do something I never thought I would do again...call someone my husband. He's not perfect, but neither am I. The kids have struggled a bit with not being the only ones in my life, but they're settling in too. Money is an ongoing concern, as it will be until the kids are out of the house, but we have a home that keeps us protected and warm, food on the table, and clothes to wear. I am able to handle the extra costs of the Winterguard for not one but two kids this year, and I had another vehicle when the van got stolen so transportation wasn't even really an issue. Life will always bring surprises and challenges, but I like where I am, and I am looking forward to this year!

Queen Mum wrote:I'd have to say I'm very happy.

I have a good life with a man that is a perfect match for me. And he spoils me so much (he feels that he gets spoiled more - so it must be good)

We are retired in a good place.

We aren't as set financially as we had planned when we retired - but the market took that dive and we didn't get what we planned for our house back east - but even when things feel really tight, we realize we're in a better spot than many people are. We just can't do the trips we had planned to do.

Yeah, our bodies are falling apart - but nothing too serious. Aches and pains remind us that we're alive.

I am so happy for you. I should have mentioned the good parts of my life besides the bad parts. I too have a man who is very good to me and helps with anything I need. I also have 2 beautiful girls. They both still live at home and I am in no hurry to push them out of the nest. They are both getting good jobs and are getting ready to make that leap. They look out for each other and us as well. Then there are the fur babies. We have a cat and a new puppy. The yougest DD also has a cat and dog who we are Gma and Gpa to. I love them all so very much and my heart over flows when I think about them.

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no.

Yes and No... as to being where I hoped to be at this point in my life.


Financially life sucks. My husband and I filed for Chapter 13 bankruptcy in June 2010, and we won't be through that process until June 2015. I guess the good part of the way we filed is that we were able to keep all our stuff ... cars, home, etc., but we are leaving paycheck to paycheck. I guess things good be worse. We have a roof over our head and have enough to buy food and pay our other bills. But, really no room for savings or extras. I've been teaching scrapbooking classes mostly with my stash and a few extras added in, and saving that money so that DH and I can go with DD and get her settled into college in the fall.



Health-wise / exercise - I need to loose weight, but the motivation just isn't there. I keep taking on more and more volunteer projects instead of saying no, and concentrating on exercising and eating better.



I am blessed with a wonderful husband and daughter. My mom also lives with us (in her own apartment downstairs), and we get along great and do stuff together all the time. I've got a few close friends that I hang out with regularly. One though, she's been my BF for about 17 years, I just don't even like being around anymore. She's very negative, and has been hanging around another person and has really changed. Or maybe I have... a little of both perhaps. She's part of the group of gals that hang out together and it's hard to even invite her to stuff. We do, because we are worried about her, but sometimes it's a stuggle to be around her and not say what's on our minds about how's she acting. Especially because her family (dh and dd) are suffering from it... in our opinion.



I think a lot of it for me is the weather we've been having the last few months. It's been very depressing and with all the snow/ice I haven't been able to get out and walk. Of course that is no excuse for not exercising as I have a brand new (got in November) recumbent bike and we've also got a treadmill and ab chair. All set up in the living room, so I really have no excuse... just need to make the time for me, instead of everyone else. That's always been something I've been terrible at ... finding ME time.



So, now that I've typed this all out and read it, it's amazing how much better I feel.



I say that all of us that are feeling depressed or whatever that things aren't as good as we like, need to all band together to keep our spirits up. And, as for those of us needing to shed those unwanted pounds, maybe we should start a weight-loss/exerise thread to motivate each other and be there for each others ups and downs.

"I say that all of us that are feeling depressed or whatever that things aren't as good as we like, need to all band together to keep our spirits up. And, as for those of us needing to shed those unwanted pounds, maybe we should start a weight-loss/exerise thread to motivate each other and be there for each others ups and downs"

Mindy Sue, I really like that idea. I know the scrapbook goals thread has helped me and this sounds like it would help all of us. How do we start it?

As for me, I have positives and negatives but the negatives seem to be weighing me down lately. DH has had health problems the last six months and missed a ton of work. I'm worried he will lose his job and that would just leave us with my disability. We are carrying too much debt and we have a daughter in college and I'm sick of being sick - you get the picture.

I try to remember the positives. DH had his last surgery and it was successful so hopefully one problem is solved. If I could lose some weight I'm sure I would feel better. We have a roof over our heads and enough food to eat (obviously ) but I'm so tired. This board is a blessing, my daughter is healthy and our fur babies give me joy every day. I love my husband dearly and he is my best friend as well. We enjoy each other's company and that is a big blessing too!

happayscrappay wrote:uh.
no.

Oh Rachel, I do think of you lots, and hope that things will start turning around for you and your family.

MindySue wrote:***PARTIAL QUOTE***
I think a lot of it for me is the weather we've been having the last few months. It's been very depressing and with all the snow/ice I haven't been able to get out and walk. Of course that is no excuse for not exercising as I have a brand new (got in November) recumbent bike and we've also got a treadmill and ab chair. All set up in the living room, so I really have no excuse... just need to make the time for me, instead of everyone else. That's always been something I've been terrible at ... finding ME time.



So, now that I've typed this all out and read it, it's amazing how much better I feel.



I say that all of us that are feeling depressed or whatever that things aren't as good as we like, need to all band together to keep our spirits up. And, as for those of us needing to shed those unwanted pounds, maybe we should start a weight-loss/exerise thread to motivate each other and be there for each others ups and downs.

Mindy Sue, we talk about the weather up there alot since we really haven't had much snow this year. To see 48 in Feb is just insane for us!



I agree on the new thread, I just don't get on here everyday, so I usually lurk more than I participate......With your excercise equipment in the living room, would you be able to hop on your bike while you watch the news?

Ayla wrote:I too have to say I'm very happy. I did experience a general sense of irritability and un-settledness, if that's a word, about 4 years ago. I started tanning for a cruise I was planning and it made all the difference the world. My mood lifted, and while theproblems were still there, I dealt with them much better.


But this year is starting out wonderful. I've met someone terrific, and am about to do something I never thought I would do again...call someone my husband. He's not perfect, but neither am I. The kids have struggled a bit with not being the only ones in my life, but they're settling in too. Money is an ongoing concern, as it will be until the kids are out of the house, but we have a home that keeps us protected and warm, food on the table, and clothes to wear. I am able to handle the extra costs of the Winterguard for not one but two kids this year, and I had another vehicle when the van got stolen so transportation wasn't even really an issue. Life will always bring surprises and challenges, but I like where I am, and I am looking forward to this year!

I would love to go tanning, unfortunately that's one of my med problems, I've had several sections of pre-cancerous cells removed from my body and I'm not a sun worshipper, and never really have been. I did do that several years ago and it did help alot, hmmmm maybe the sunless tanning lotion? Nancy, I'm so happy for you, you've had some great things happen and I sure hope they continue for you!

jnet wrote:"***PARTIAL QUOTE***
As for me, I have positives and negatives but the negatives seem to be weighing me down lately. DH has had health problems the last six months and missed a ton of work. I'm worried he will lose his job and that would just leave us with my disability. We are carrying too much debt and we have a daughter in college and I'm sick of being sick - you get the picture.

I try to remember the positives. DH had his last surgery and it was successful so hopefully one problem is solved. If I could lose some weight I'm sure I would feel better. We have a roof over our heads and enough food to eat (obviously ) but I'm so tired. This board is a blessing, my daughter is healthy and our fur babies give me joy every day. I love my husband dearly and he is my best friend as well. We enjoy each other's company and that is a big blessing too!

jnet, you're right, I also need to remember the positives! ((even though my pants are too tight, they still 'fit' me!!!LOLOL)) I think we all needed a laugh. But seriously, I need to look for more positives or pick a negative and see how I can turn it around.



I'm hoping your 2012 turns around for more positives and your dh doesn't lose his job. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers also.

Emotionally, I do feel better this Jan than I did a year ago. That year had been terribly stressful and I was miserable. However, I'm still carrying over some bad bad eating habits and much weight gain. Obese is the word and I hate it but like others, haven't gotten to the point of doing something seriously about it. Time for my yearly check up and I worried about what my labwork will tell.

Getting back here, participating more is helping me. I can't leave the house often since I have a medically dependent son and I find I depend on connections with friends through the internet often. I've been hooked on f/b games but it's not helping me to be active and do things I really want/need to do. So, I've slowed down on those and doing more scrapping and I can't tell you how much I feel better about myself just by completing a LO.

Financially, I'm the one working now..dh on disability and dang it, I do resent it. Some things we cannot change so I have to adjust my attitude some days. I do have a job! That, I am grateful for!

Having a long way to go for myself and actually will always have bumps in the road, I hope we all keep on truckin and when one thing doesn't work..try something else! When I"m miserable, I mope and sleep, then feel more miserable...I did that last 2 yrs...time to move on past that and I am trying now. Sometimes I need a little pressure to get going...kind of like those "hour of powers". Can we get a "kick in the rump"? I know I'll feel better.

debamas wrote:Emotionally, I do feel better this Jan than I did a year ago. That year had been terribly stressful and I was miserable. However, I'm still carrying over some bad bad eating habits and much weight gain. Obese is the word and I hate it but like others, haven't gotten to the point of doing something seriously about it. Time for my yearly check up and I worried about what my labwork will tell.

Getting back here, participating more is helping me. I can't leave the house often since I have a medically dependent son and I find I depend on connections with friends through the internet often. I've been hooked on f/b games but it's not helping me to be active and do things I really want/need to do. So, I've slowed down on those and doing more scrapping and I can't tell you how much I feel better about myself just by completing a LO.

Financially, I'm the one working now..dh on disability and dang it, I do resent it. Some things we cannot change so I have to adjust my attitude some days. I do have a job! That, I am grateful for!

Having a long way to go for myself and actually will always have bumps in the road, I hope we all keep on truckin and when one thing doesn't work..try something else! When I"m miserable, I mope and sleep, then feel more miserable...I did that last 2 yrs...time to move on past that and I am trying now. Sometimes I need a little pressure to get going...kind of like those "hour of powers". Can we get a "kick in the rump"? I know I'll feel better.

Here's your "kick in the rump"! I want, make that need, one too. I'm glad this Jan has been better for you. I haven't done a lo since last Feb or March. How said is that? I bought a bunch of stuff, but haven't been able to use it. So would your DH be willing to help you scrap? Some men are, and I would so love that. Mine loves the albums, just not the time I can spend doing them. Keep an eye out for an exercise thread, I'm hoping one pops up, that way we can all get one positive thing moving.

I would have to say that for the most part, I am very happy. Are there things I wish were different, of course. But I have learned to accept certain things better then when I was young. And to be totally honest, my needs are very small. My DH and I have been together for over 20 years now, and we are at a very comfortable place. My children are all grown, and even though there is some heartache involved there, I am learning to " let go and let GOD" as the saying goes. Not all days are good, but I find that the more positive I am, the easier it is to stay that way when the road gets bumpy. I truly wish all of you find some inner peace thru the bad times, and trust that things will work out! Also, in 2010, I had major health scares, and I know it sounds cliche, but I truly do look at things differently now. And I know I am blessed beyond what I thought possible. On a down note, I too could stand to lose some weight, so if anyone comes up with a miracle way to do that, count me in!!!:winkb:

"......With your excercise equipment in the living room, would you be able to hop on your bike while you watch the news?[/quote] "




That was the intent ... to do the bike or walk on the treadmill while watching tv in the evening. But, what do I do instead... go veg on the couch with my Nook ... multitask ... watch tv, read and play words with friends.

Debbie, I have postponed my yearly exam 2x now because I don't want my doctor to lecture me. I have to go the next time though (end of February) cause he has to see me before he'll renew my depoprevera prescription.