How would you handle this one

[BugLover]

 I would listen to the message....and determine if it's worth hurting him again.  If it's for money, or any material thing....then I would just say to hubby...."hi hun...another phone call from psycho..she wants cash..just letting you know! Smile and give him a big kiss"

Now if for some reason, she's come back to sanity and realized how much of a butt that she really is, and wants to make amends with him....tell her to start forking over some money...that way it will show that she's TRUELY sincere....

Or if it were me...and she was his daughter, and she was hurting him over and over...I would go beat the crap out of her, and tell her to never show her face at your door again, until she realizes how much pain she's put that man through...and even THEN, they wouldn't talk unless I was in the room, holding a baseball bat...

But, in all honesty..he's right...tough love is the best solution.  Unless someone is in the hospital, or passed away, I wouldn't tell him anything.  She needs to learn to live her life on her own.

[Beth-W]

I agree with Becky.  Listen to them, leave them for him to hear and let him know the message is on the machine.

I think distancing himself from the situation is smart and he is lucky to have found you!

[DisneyInsider]

 Honestly, they are his kids and he needs to be the one to deal with them, crazy or not.  Sorry you are having to go through this. We have Crazy in our family too and I know it is not easy.

[PopPop]

 I would probably listen to the messages and erase them.  If it is something important you could relay the message or save them for him to listen to if he wants.  If he has grandkids old enough to go to college, this is a mess and I would recommend he get a restraining order on her and be sure he has a phone restriction, then change and unlist you phone#.