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dinasaad

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 I am in a very bad situation. I just found out that i am 20 days pregnant.
I have been married for exactly four years and this would be my fourth pregnancy, so literally  i have been pregnant since i got married. My pregnancies are very hard. I lost my first baby when i was pregnant in 4 months and half. I was on bed rest on both of my other pregnancies. Now selim is 2.5 years and Hussien just turned 1. I dontknow how i can take care of them if i am on bed rest. My husband is re-locating his factory so he is out of Cairo all day long, he leaves the house at 8 am and doesn return before 10 or 11 pm. we were using birth control but i dont know what went wrong. physically ,psychologically and financially we are not ready at all. At the same time, i have never ever thought i would consider abrotion in my life but i also dont know how to cop if i decide to continue with this pregnancy. To make things worse,  I have been taking diet pills that works on the nervous system and the brain and its not knwon if they will harm the baby or not.
please advise.
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zanettac

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Re: Tortured
 I wish I had some advice for you...sounds like a tough situation!  Sending good vibes and prayers your way!
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bumblebby

Cherry Garcia

Re: Tortured
 I reluctantly had my tubes tied last year after a three month pregnancy related hospital stay. I also had another rough pregnancy and a miscarriage. I can understand your fear as it was my own fear.
Do you have any family or friends you can enlist to help?
Can you re-work your finances to possibly free up money for child care when needed?
What does your dh think?
I am sorry you are going through this. (((HUGS))) 
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ArmyWife95

Chocolate Covered Cherry

Re: Tortured
 pming you!
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JenniferP

Sweet Cherry Pie

Re: Tortured
 Please seek some professional help before you make any decisions.  Can you hire someone to help you take care of your children?
~Jen
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beachlover

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Re: Tortured
 sending prayers to you, as well as {{{{hugs}}}}
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koala1966

Cherry Delight

Re: Tortured
 Sending prayers for you and your family  ((HUGS))
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asset

Wild Cherry

Re: Tortured
 I can't tell you what to do. I can understand your fear & disappointment in being pregnant. I've been there- my #3 was a complete surprise (shock really) & I was mad that 'it' happened. Now I can't imagine my life without his shining smile, excessive energy or silly actions. He has brought more joy that I could ever have imagined.
I believe thateverything happens for a reason, and you will get throught this. You will. If it's having this baby or not- you will get though it. Please take the time to really think about all aspects of any decision- & do see a professional if you feel that will help you have peace of mind with either decision. Maybe look into testing to see if the diet pills affected the baby? And consider- maybe this pregnancy will be easier on you- it could happen.
You will be in my prayers.
~Tessa

I'm not saying forget what you lost
I suppose there's a purpose in pain
What we make of ourselves has a cost
And it's paid every time we take hold of the reins
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Queen Mum

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Re: Tortured
 You do need to talk to a doctor about the effects of the medications you've been taking as well as your own physical and mental health.

All these things must be taken into consideration before you make any decisions.

I hope you are guided in your choices.
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Mommybruno

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Re: Tortured
 I'm so sorry you're going through such a tough time! As others have said, I hope you go and consult a professional - both about your current frame of mind and about the possible effects of the medications you've been on.

In the end, you'll have to do what's right for you and your family. Please keep us posted!
Cassandra
"I tend to live in the past because most of my life is there." --Herb Caen
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Janshotgun

Cherry Cola

Re: Tortured
 You have to be guided by what your doctors tell you and your own belief system along with your physical and mental health.  No other person can tell you what you should do - it's such a personal decision.  I will pray that you can sort through everything and make the decision that you feel comfortable with.  Good luck and (((HUGS)))
Jan - trying to find my way

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Janet

Cherry Jubilee

Re: Tortured
 Dina...I am sending up many prayers as you make this difficult decision!
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-Shannon-

Chocolate Covered Cherry

Re: Tortured
 I don't have any advice as I have never been in your situation but I wanted to send you some {{HUGS}} and love.
As you go through this I hope you feel comfortable to lean on us. PM me or message me on Facebook anytime girl.
- Shannon

I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.
-Lucille Ball


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Laura Fiore

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Re: Tortured
 Dina--I'm so sorry, I don't have any words of advice, but it sounds like alot of people here have good ideas to think about. I just wanted you to know that I care that you're going through this and send you some {{{hugs}}}
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4peasinourpod

Wild Cherry

Re: Tortured
 Dina...again, first talk to a physician.  Remember that after conception, the fetus (or baby) doesn't even attach to the uterine wall for about 10 days, and medications that you may be taking may not affect it.

You are in my prayers. 
~pam~
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girlsmommy

Cherry Bomb

Re: Tortured
 A professional opinion will ease your worries. 

When I was prego with my third, I was very upset too.  Everything worked out and I love her to pieces!
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rebajane

Sweet Cherry Pie

Re: Tortured
Your between a rock and a hard place. I cant imagine the stress your under. Your in my prayers.
Rebajane
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scrapgram

Cherry Cropper

Re: Tortured
 Dina,  i  wish i could send you my thougths but i am typing with my left hand right now.  just wanted you to know i am thinking of you.  and let our Lord guide you.  hugs
We have to forgive! If we don't forgive, we'll get left behind! janet rose


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SBcrazee

Cherry Jubilee

Re: Tortured
 I'm so sorry Dina. What a tough situation. I hope you can make the right decisions.
I will keep you in my thoughts. Big hugs to you.
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Kara

Cherry Jubilee

Re: Tortured
 Dina--I agree that this is a bad place and I ache for you. Please think this through before you make any decisions and know that we are all here for you if you need us. I wish I could wave a magic wand but all I can do is offer love and support!!!
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